Faculty of Social and Human Sciences (UNL) Conference System, 1st Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference

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Intersectional Me: A Personal Reflection on Intersectionality through Non-monogamy
Ana C Pires

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Date: 2015-09-25 06:30 PM – 08:00 PM
Last modified: 2015-08-08


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Those I accepted as absolute truths, those I thought about and those I deliberately claimed through the deconstruction brought by the critical thinking, made possible by non-monogamous experiences, based on the questioning of beliefs, the searching for the roots of the socio-cultural constructions that are accepted as normal or correct, and an exercise between the abstract analysis and the immersion in the environments I live in.

As activists we understand the need to cross experiences, privileges and oppressions so that the deconstruction can be functional and not only a brainless narrative of demystification of some privileges while others remain intact. That’s why we talk about intersectionality as having an intrinsic value in the deconstruction of the hetero-mono-normative patterns, as an essential tool for the analysis of the cultural constructions that are imposed as natural laws of action in society. Nevertheless, the demystification of this overlap of privileges and oppressions that target us does not come as something natural.

In my experience, the non-monogamies acted as a catalyst to rethink concepts and prejudices that relate to my own identity and how I see the world, and that’s what I intend to share - a reflection about the power that exists in the deconstruction of concepts that come from challenging the hetero-mono-normative narrative that dictates how we should live our affections and relationships, something that at the same time is so intimate as well as so regulated by society.

Communication, consent, intimacy, respect, jealousy, freedom, compersion, love, possessiveness, sex; all these concepts were thought through, experienced and explored. And, through that experience, I find a place where intersectionality blossoms by breaking with the normative thinking, which limits the understanding of the basic notion that we are oppressors and also oppressed, not in the same proportion, but by the same narrative.