Faculty of Social and Human Sciences (UNL) Conference System, 1st Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference

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Views on jealousy from non-monogamous people lived experiences and emotionalities in southern Brazil
Dardo Lorenzo Bornia Junior

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Date: 2015-09-25 04:30 PM – 06:00 PM
Last modified: 2015-08-13

Abstract


In this paper, I show views on jealousy, seen as a repressive feeling to the creation of non-monogamous relationships and practices. In fact, jealousy has been related in critical views to the paradigm of romantic love and to the idea of one else possession, and, therefore, non-monogamous people have usually been discussed on it. This paper is part of a larger PhD research in Social Anthropology on contemporary kinds of non-monogamy in Brazil, and on non-monogamous lived experiences and becomings of non-adapted to mononormativity people. Ethnographic research started two years ago with members of relações livres (free relationships), polyamory, swing lifestyle and open couples. In all cases, despite differences on thinking politics, conception of non-monogamy, agreements, limits, and consensus, jealousy raises as a negative feeling to be fixed – because it is related to a mononormative pattern of subjectivity. In non-monogamous lived experiences, however, there is a multiplicity of assemblages and crossings, related to complex issues, such as family, gender, marriage, desire, politics and emotionalities. Jealousy is a central matter to these topics, which justifies our concern on it in this paper. The main purpose is to show views on jealousy and strategies to lead with it, overcoming or adapting, from non-monogamous subjects studied in the research (people living in southern Brazil, where the research is more developed), in order to advance in comprehension of non-monogamous lived experiences and subjectivities starting from own involved people views.

 

Key-words: Non-monogamous relationships, mononormativity, subjectivities, emotionalities, jealousy.