Faculty of Social and Human Sciences (UNL) Conference System, 1st Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference

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No Flirting Allowed! The Association between Relationship Norms and Relationship Satisfaction
Myrte Esther Hamburg

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Date: 2015-09-27 02:30 PM – 04:00 PM
Last modified: 2015-08-08


Caregivers differ in their ability and willingness to provide sensitive and responsive childcare. As children grow up they base their expectations of how trustworthy others are and how much they can rely on others on these early experiences (Bowlby, 1973). Despite the stigma surrounding consensual non-monogamous (CNM) relationships (Conley, Moors, Matsick, & Ziegler, 2013), research suggests that people engaging in CNM have attachment representations comparable to those in monogamous relationships, and show comparable levels of relationship satisfaction (Moors, Conley, Edelstein, & Chopik, 2015; Ramirez & Brown, 2010).

In support of this literature, our data showed that there is no correlation between norms regarding extramarital/extrarelational flirting behaviour and partner closeness: r = -.009, p = .934. The correlation between flirt norms and commitment was also not significant: r = -.115, p = .307, as was the correlation between flirt norms and relationship satisfaction: r = -.027, p = .808. These results suggest that stricter norms regarding extrarelational behavior have no protective effect on relationship quality. Rather, participants with more lenient norms showed equal levels of perceived partner closeness, commitment, and relationship satisfaction compared to participants with stricter norms. The association between attachment representations, jealousy, and CNM relationships will be discussed.