Faculty of Social and Human Sciences (UNL) Conference System, 1st Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference

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This, and other intimacies: a Psychosexological review of monogamy and its distractions.
David Hampson

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Date: 2015-09-25 06:30 PM – 08:00 PM
Last modified: 2015-08-08


Born of the ”gomos” (marriage) of two gametes, thrown into being (‘geworfen', Heidegger): One come of One and Other, each supposèd ’Self' is truly experienced in relationship.

From this relational matrix of ‘selves’ are woven all our systems - sexual, familial, societal, political, cultural.

This presentation offers a schema of relationship, 'Layered relating', that eschews limiting nomenclatures based on simplistic description and numerics such as non-, mono-, bi-, poly-, pan-,  inter-, trans-, homo-, etc.

Intimacy, the offering and receiving of revelation, is identified as the process of life and growth; informational revelations of self, history, desire, (in)congruence, (in)authenticity as its ingredients and nutrition.

Philosophically existential, academically incorporating thinking from systems, game, and complexity theories, the presentation is drawn from six decades of explorations in intimacy, and from 17 years practice in psychosexual and relationship therapeutic consultation.

The dilemmas, disturbances, distractions, and delights of sexual and other intimacies are aspected from personal professional experience.

I describe some of the multiplicity of clinical presentations that occur in psychosexual therapy from seemingly paradoxical positions of "I cheat and I commit”, to declarations of openess, and to the ambiguations of ‘love’.