Faculty of Social and Human Sciences (UNL) Conference System, 1st Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference

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90-min Intimacy: the Consumption of Intimacy in Modern Society
Chun Yang

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Date: 2015-09-25 06:30 PM – 08:00 PM
Last modified: 2015-08-08


In modernisation theories, intimacy has been celebrated as the force capable of democratising social spheres around us, public and private alike. Giddens notoriously rejects a descriptive notion of intimacy by substituting it with a normative one that emphasises prerogatives and responsibilities contained within practical activity. Implicitly siding with Giddens, psychotherapists also stress the importance of intimacy as a long-term undertaking that can help to shape in a positive manner inter-human interaction. However, my past experience as a sexual worker, namely a service provider who sells intimacy to customers within 90 minutes, has essentially defied this political reading of a temporally-prolonged personal effort in constructing a positive relationship with another human being. My short-term intimacy therapy, termed as “Hypnotic Multidimensional Slow Sex Love”, emphasises the inherent need of customer who seeks a maximum gratification of sexual desires, both physiological and psychological, within the temporally- and spatially-limited encounter with a sexual worker. Intimacy, in this sense, is no longer an oppressive term that tries to bracket human relationships within the socially accepted categories of family, kinship, friendship, comradeship, or fellowship, in which stead, it can become an emancipatory instrument helping to experience the neglected, the marginalised, and the unexplored within our daily life. Essentially, the consumption of intimacy is centred upon the notion of romantic love – a subject for which human beings are engaged in eternal seeking.

Keywords: Modernisation theory, intimacy, short-term intimacy therapy, consumption of intimacy